The Swinging Lifestyle

Swinging is recreational sex that occurs between a consenting adult couple. Swingers are usually male/female couples that meet and have sex with other male/female couples. However, there are also gay and lesbian swingers, who meet other swinging couples in their own lifestyle.

Swingers are people who feel it is their right to choose a lifestyle that society places outside of the norm. The social structure of marriage is that a male/female relationship is one where the couple has exclusive sexual rights to one another. It is generally believed that it is the duty of the couple to satisfy each other’s emotional, physical and sexual needs. However, this isn’t always the case and married couples experience disappointment and disillusionment when society’s definition of the perfect ideal fails.

Swingers are people who are critical of society’s perfect ideal. They wish to extend the boundaries of their lives and actively seek to live outside the stereotypical attitudes and outdated traditional values. They choose to live an alternative lifestyle where family, friends and society do not criticize them.

Swinging is something that married couples do together. Many swingers clubs are couples only. Single swingers are not allowed to participate in the activities. When couples participate, both partners need to be in full agreement. Swingers have a certain etiquette that they follow in order to keep their swinging experiences positive.

Swinging Etiquette

1. Always be open-minded and try new things.
2. Communicate with your partner. Discuss your experiences and be sure to address any negative thoughts, feelings and experiences.
3. Always keep your partner’s comfort, security and safety in top priority.
4. Agree on limits, set them and stick to them.
5. Take your time! The swinging lifestyle is not something you decide to do because others are doing it. Take things one step at a time.
6. If you decide to reject the advances of another couple, do so with respect an always be polite and courteous.
7. Wear sexy outfits to boost your confidence. This helps you to be more aggressive when approaching others.
8. Have a drink to relax. Mingle with the crowd. Talk to all people present, not just those who you are interested in.
9. If you have questions, be sure to ask. This is the only way that you’ll receive answers.
10. Read the profile of others. Don’t just look at their photos and rush to contact them. Compatibility is a must in order to have a positive swinging experience.
11. Use proper personal hygiene, which includes cleanliness, proper use of deodorant etc.
12. Wear or use condoms when participating in swinging activity.
13. Describe yourself objectively and be honest.
14. Never participate in any activity that makes you or your partner uncomfortable.
15. Never smoke around non-smokers.
16. Never do it if it doesn’t feel right.
17. Never act too aggressively. If someone says no, respect his or her wishes.
18. Never allow fear of rejection to be a barrier when approaching someone.
19. Never overindulge in alcoholic beverages.
20. Never be loud or pushy.
21. Never lie about your looks or your financial or social status. Lies always come back to haunt you.
22. Never post naked photos online unless you face is covered. Always censor your photos.

How to Meet Other Swingers

If you should decide that the swinging lifestyle is for you, there are a wide range of swinging resources online, which will enable you to meet swingers in your area. Use discretion when answering or posting swinger ads. Talk to those you meet over a period of time before making plans to meet.

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